First Time....need advice, tips

[Saraha]

Bring the fantasy up everytime she has had alcohol, because her mind is receptive to talking about the fantasy. Don't push it when she is sober.

The thought of extra-marital sex is first sown in her mind, then it grows like a seed in the garden, but her belief system has to change to "allow her to have her fantasy" when she is sober. She has to have 'permission", otherwise her subconscious mind will fire out all the reasons why it would be absolutely wrong to jump into bed with other guys.

Her subconscious mind will be re-programmed over time by the mind pictures she feels when she talks about getting fucked by another guy. She will grow more confident to take the next logical step once her imagination has snowballed to make her dream feel very real and desirable.

Alcohol is very similar to hypnosis - makes the conscious thinking mind "stand aside and stop interfering" - then suggestions of sex are accepted as "commands that seem logical and exciting", inhibitions switched off completely.

If she feels her marriage could be damaged, she will feel too scared to act; so she needs to know she has a monogamous husband, and a good way to prove that is to be caged and her to hold the key. When she lets you out of the cage, your sperm will be at its peak from no masturbation, and you will have wonderful sex with her and she will enjoy your extra excitement at "getting a fuck at last".

[Saraha]

A lot of wives are very tired all the time from the stresses of running a home/children. I always advise men to take over the housework to let her freshen up to feel more desirable. New clothes in her wardrobe will excite her to want opportunities to wear them.

A tired out wife does not feel sexy and attractive to men, but if her husband does some housework and baby minding, she can begin to dress better and therefore notice more guys checking her out, and her self-esteem will rise and she start to crave a chance to find out whether men "really want her body".

[TraumatizedFantasy]

^Hey...thanks for all the advice. I'm extremely helpful around the house so she never has a problem with that, but I'm about to take her out shopping and let her pick out some new outfits and things like that so she'll feel even sexier than she already does.

Progress...I got her to read The Science of cuckolding article and she found it very interesting, more so that I thought she would. She's also been talking alot more openly about different fantasies, one which involves me being tied up and forced to watch her get dominated by a man with a huge cock.

[Custer Laststand]

TraumatizedFantasy,

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

Progress...I got her to read "The Science of Cuckolding" article and she found it very interesting, more so than I thought she would.

Cool! You might now suggest this article

The Cuckold Phenomena Cuckold Couple

to your wife, if she hasn't read it already. (It's reproduced on the same "Cuckold Couple" website as "The Science of Cuckolding" by Dr. Susan Gower.) It's by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D. (whose extensive, valuable, and very sane website is no longer extant, unfortunately).

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

She's also been talking a lot more openly about different fantasies, one which involves me being tied up and forced to watch her get dominated by a man with a huge cock.

Excellent! You could easily enact this. Your wife could order you to "take off your cloths," then — with you in the nude — tie you to a straight-backed wooden chair in her boudoir, then fuck herself to a loud orgasm (while you're "forced helplessly to watch") with a suitably large, well-lubricated, vibrating dildo as she sighs, moans, and breathlessly cries out the name of some man she considers attractive.

You could carry out this fantasy with her repeatedly.... each time she would become more skilled at tying you up more-and-more securely, and more accustomed to you being "forced to watch helplessly" as she is "fucked by a large cock."

You might also consider purchasing (or ordering online) a police-quality set of handcuffs, which you could present to your wife as a present. Then, instead of tying up up, she could handcuff your hands behind your back, then require you to sit in the same straight-backed chair (which she could also tie you to, if she wished). She could then wear the handcuff key on a chain around her neck, and (during day-to-day life) carry the handcuffs around with her in her purse, to remind herself of her authority as your wife.

Go for it....

Custer

[Saraha]

The seed is planted in her mind, and takes awhile to grow, but when she feels ready and gets a taste, she won't be able to put the cork in the bottle. Secret fantasies have enormous energy in them.

[TraumatizedFantasy]

Well my friends even more progress!!!

I was out yesterday with a bunch of friends and she stayed home. When I got home she was extremely horny and wanted to have sex. While I'm fucking her she began to ask for different things out of the normal (telling me to slap her pussy, put 2 fingers in her with my dick as well) which of course got me even more excited then as I was getting at her even harder she says "I was a little naughty tonight!" So I asked why and she went on to tell me how she was reading different stories online about married women sleeping with other men while their husbands were forced to watch, stories about married women being dominated by another man then coming home and telling their husbands about it. She then proceeded to tell me she got so hot and turned on that her pussy was literally throbbing at the thought. Then began telling me how she loves my cock and it does a great job but she wants something even bigger in her, she wants a huge dick to fill her up. So I'm going nuts now and telling her this is a great thing and at this point I'm fucking her like a lunatic and she starts going wild then cums like I haven't seen in a while. After we finished she tells me "while you were fucking me before I came I was picturing a strong man with a huge dick fucking me while you were sleeping next to us" and how he was banging her to where I woke up and she forced me to just get out of the bed and watch her and this big dicked lover!

Even better, she sent me a text message tonight as she is out and said when I'm on my way home I want you to run me a bath and you're going to help bathe me then when I get out you're going to eat my pussy!!!! She's never demanding like this. I'm hoping for a little more progress tonight and will definitely update this either tomorrow or the day after. Thanks again all for the advice and listening!!!!!!!

[tenderloin]

Congtats!! Sounds like the log jam has been broken, should be all good from here on out, enjoy it!

[TraumatizedFantasy]

Well...it seems as if things are beginning to move along nicely. I'll give a little recap of what happened Saturday night!

Saturday night she came home later from a night out with the girls, but before she got home she texted me and told me in a very assertive many to draw her a bath. Once she arrived she quickly stripped and got into the tub and told (not asked) for me to get her glass of wine and that I was going to help wash and massage her feet. She laid back and finished 3 glasses of wine while I massaged her until she finally told me to bathe her. So I did. Once she had enough she climbed out of the tub and told me that I was going to come to the room with her and I was going to eat her pussy for her. She laid down and spread her legs and I quickly went to work as she grabbed my head and wiped her juices on my face then Demanded I lay on my back so she could ride my face. She went crazy and then started jerking me off and told me how I'm not allowed to fuck her and her pussy was for "him". Whoah!!! She pulled out this big dildo we bought a few years ago and began to fuck herself with it and forced me to sit back and watch while she moaned and dripped in pleasure constantly saying things like "he" is so big, "oh my God he feels so good" "He" fills me up. Then while she fucked herself with "him" she demanded again that I lick her clit simultaneously till she came. After she came she told me thanks and that If i'm lucky I might get a release in a couple of days!!! She gave me a kiss and went to bed!

That was by far one of the hottest experiences I have ever had. I had to do no coaxing or anything, no suggesting and she came out of her shell on her own.

[tenderloin]

Originally Posted by tenderloin

Sounds like the log jam has been broken ...

Yep, log jam has been broken, now let the flood waters rage (onto your face)!

[Custer Laststand]

TraumatizedFantasy,

My congratulations to your boss/cuckoldress-to-be, and to you as well as her cuckold-in-waiting.

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

.... Before my wife got home, she text'd me and told me in a very assertive way to draw her bath.

Excellent!

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

When my wife arrived she quickly stripped, got into the tub, and told (did not ask) me to bring her a glass of wine. Then, she told me to help wash and massage her feet.

Very good! Your wife clearly understands the importance of you paying proper attention to her feet.

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

She laid back and finished 3 glasses of wine while I massaged her. Finally, she told me to bathe her and I did. When she had enough, she climbed out of the tub and told me that I was going to come to her boudoir with her and eat her pussy. She laid down and spread her legs and I quickly went to work as she grabbed my head and wiped her juices on my face. Then, she demanded I lie on my back so she could ride my face.

Cool! It sounds like your wife has read "The Fine Art of Queening," and perceives the value of this art form (so to speak).

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

She went crazy, then started jerking me off and told me I'm not allowed to fuck her; her pussy was for "him". She pulled out the big dildo we bought a few years ago and began to fuck herself with it, "forcing" me to sit back and watch while she moaned and dripped in pleasure while saying things like "he is so big;" "oh my God, he feels so good;" and "he fills me up."

Then, while fucking herself with "him," she demanded again that I lick her clit simultaneously 'til she came. Then, she told me "thanks; if I'm lucky I might get to release in a couple of days!" Then, she gave me a kiss and went to bed.

All this sounds very positive. In connection with your wife queening you, you might consider purchasing a vibrating "mouth dildo" for her.... i.e., with a short penis to fit in your mouth (in effect, as a gag and anchor), a relative long, thick vibrating penis to project from your mouth for your wife to fuck herself with while she rides your face; and a harness to strap it around your head. (You should be able to find one by googling "mouth dildos.")

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

That was by far one of the hottest experiences I have ever had. I did no coaxing or suggesting; she came out of her shell on her own.

Hm.... one wonders if one of your wife's woman friends is "experienced" and gave her some advise and encouragement. If so, that would be optimal. You might enquire discreetly about this — if she has a friend who dominates and/or cuckolds her husband, that will make it much easier for your wife to continue moving forward (IMO).

—Custer