First Time....need advice, tips

[TraumatizedFantasy]

Just to keep things simple and to the point...I have a very hot wife that has expressed interest in wanting to be fucked by another man with a huge dick. A dominant man that will use her pussy and treat her like the slut she feels she is. However because we are married she won't do it. She admits that she would love to but because we are married this shouldn't happen because it is wrong. Hell we have a huge dildo that I use on her frequently, even from time to time while I'm having sex with her she'll ask me to stop and use it on her and she goes nuts.

Any suggestions as to how I can actually get her to take the next step. Once she does it I know she will love it and I would love for her to have an ongoing sexual relationship with a person with a huge dick both while i'm present and while i'm not.

[SoonToBe]

Give your huge dildo a name and start to use it when you are having sex. Tell her "Jim wants you now" (assuming you named the dildo Jim).

Get her used to "another man" and then suggest making it a real dick instead of a plastic one.

This was one of the steps we took. It got Sue used to saying/wanting another man when she was with me.

Also, do not push too hard. It took us over 10 years for things to finally happen.

[TraumatizedFantasy]

^I'll try naming it someone she might find attractive. This is something that sort of happens as she'll get on all fours and i'll use the dildo on her and she'll start pretending someone else is fucking her, so we'll use it and i'll say things like "just imagine him ramming you hard, imagine getting spanked and having your hair pulled while he rams you" things like that and she loves it.

I never push hard and I don't bring up the fantasy much. In fact I tried to chill out for a while and we were out partying a little and she got really drink and when we got home she wanted to fuck and during kept talking about sucking another dick and wanting to feel a huge cock in her and things like that. She brought the fantasy right back when I was trying to hide it a little.

[Custer Laststand]

TraumatizedFantasy,

Your wife sounds very promising. For a gradual and systematic approach, you might consider proceeding along these lines:

Cuckold Forum - How to Make Her a Hotwife

At some point when you feel it would be beneficial, you might refer your wife to this article:

The Science of Cuckoldry Cuckold Couple

which may help her feel it's natural and appropriate for her, as a married woman, to enjoy a variety of lovers (while you remain faithful, as her cuckold husband).

Also, see:

Guide for Arranging a Successful Hot Wife Experience

There is much good information on this site you (and at some point, your wife) may find useful.

In addition, you might find this book helpful:

Amazon.com: Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot (9780940208162): Carol Queen: Books

which is among the resources listed on the "tripod" site.

Regarding the concluding comments in your most recent post:

Originally Posted by TraumatizedFantasy

In fact, I tried to chill out for a while but, when we were out partying a little and she got really drunk, after we got home she wanted to fuck and during kept talking about sucking another dick and wanting to feel a huge cock in her, and things like that. She brought the fantasy right back when I was trying to hide it a little.

That's *very* promising. Your wife's desire to become a hotwife appears to be only a small distance below the thin surface of her "inhibited persona."

Good luck! I encourage you to write back from time to time with updates re. your wife's progress. If you feel like you're hitting "a brick wall," it would be of interest to let us (the forum) know about that, as well. Some of the forum members may be able to give you good advice.

I hope this works out well for you and your sexy hotwife-to-be.

Regards—

Custer

[Ballspanking]

Love to see a pic or two...

If she is the one bringing up the fantasy, she may well be ready for it.
Try bringing it into her daily behavior and interaction, dressing sexily/provocatively, flirting with other guys..., giving out her cell phone number, chatting, etc.
The more routine it becomes to her, the more natural it will be.

[TraumatizedFantasy]

Thanks guys for all the help!!!! Custer...thank you very much for all the links, I will most definitely be checking them out and as you said when the time is right referring my wife to read some of them as well.

The other day we were actually talking and she brought up and old conversation we had about one day going out together to a bar but going our own ways and for her to dress all sexy and sit alone at the bar while I just sit back and watch her flirt with other guys. As we were talking about the fantasy she was saying what happens if a hot guy comes up to her and starts flirting and I said that i'd just sit back and watch then come rescue her from the situation(joking of course) and she replied "what if I like him and just leave with him!" Then I told her how I would probably cum in my pants, lol, and would want her to enjoy it!!! She said we'll see! So of course I said lets do it then, lets just go out and have you flirt with other guys while I watch and see what happens. So she at least agreed that we would do that soon.

As mentioned she is right on the edge, her only problem is that we're married and she feels that its wrong because of that. Originally she thought something was wrong with me for wanting that but I explained because I love and trust her so much that I would enjoy seeing her pleasured and it would excite me to see this. I also informed that my desire is only for her and I would never want another woman in return. That helped alot!

But man, we've looked at pictures of huge dicks and pornos and she always says "I wonder what that would feel like in me. I do want to feel it!" So I'm hoping.

Tonight actually she said that she wanted to chill out with a few glasses of wine (2 glasses and she's gone!!!) and fuck because when she gets toasted she gets beyond horny and lets it all loose. So Im hoping to throw some more ideas out then and see what I can find out she really wants!

I'll definitely keep everyone posted on my progress and let you guys know where I seem to be getting stuck.

[Custer Laststand]

TraumatizedFantasy,

All of the above (your post 6) sounds good. Your wife is making rapid progress. My impression is, she wants you to continue eroding her inhibitions until you finally convince her you're sincere, so she can give herself permission to do what she wants to do. So far, so good.

You might consider suggesting to your wife she begin regularly reading the "Scandalous Women" site, here:

Bold :: Brazen :: Beautiful :: Scandalous – A site for women : Scandalouswomen

It's an e-zine oriented toward female pursuit of sexual pleasure. Many articles and stories are aimed toward married women who take, or want to take, lovers. It may help your wife come around to the view that as a married woman, it's entirely appropriate for her to take lovers and to expect her husband (you) to accept that and support her in doing so.

Regarding her and your "bar fantasy," in which you enter and sit separately and pretend you don't know each other, and your wife attracts a man to flirt with (one hopes): you might suggest she read "The Art of the Hookup," here:

Featured : Scandalouswomen

This is an article on a subpage (so to speak) of the "Scandalous Women" site. To find it, go to the link then scroll down through the other articles until you get to it. You can also find it by going to the S.W. main page, then clicking "features" more-or-less at top-center, then scrolling down 'til you get to it.

On the whole, I think that's a good fantasy and may be a good strategy for your wife and you to pursue, although it obviously involves a certain amount of chance and some risk. (Clearly, your most important role will be to protect her if necessary.) The fact that she thinks about it and has agreed to try it suggests she's quite outgoing and is comfortable talking with strangers. That's positive. It can go a long way toward ensuring her success as your cuckoldress.

—Custer

[tenderloin]

Yes, sounds like se is right on the verge of making it happen, awesome! Keep us posted!!

[TraumatizedFantasy]

Thanks again all for posting up and replying. I will definitely be passing some of those links along to her.

I will keep everyone posted as to how things are progressing and what not. Tonight we actually have some alone time so I'm going to try some things to get her even more comfortable with the idea and too hopefully loosen up a little more.

Talking to her a little more about the situation the other night while having sex and her wanting to get fucked by this big dildo I have, as mentioned before her issues are that it is wrong because we are married and she thinks that at some point down the road I'll want another woman and will use her banging another man as an excuse which I'm trying to ensure her that isn't the case. I'm completely satisfied with her and have no need for anyone else.

I'm not going to lie, I'm far from a typical sissy man by any means, in fact my wife is very satisfied with me but I know she would be even more satisfied by a big dominant dick and I myself would find extreme pleasure in watching her get dominated by another man and enjoying herself beyond belief. She wants it and thinks about it, so hopefully we can make this happen.

[gotborger]

It seems that she wants to be fucked by other men, but is unfortunately scared that it will fuck up things in your relationship (that is normal). However I don't think that she will be able to resist it for long, and she soon will be fucking other men as you both wish. Good luck!

Would you like her to fuck one long-term loveror a group of different guys? White? Black?