husband wants to be a cuckold

[CoffeeGuy]

Originally Posted by angela

im curious what gets you guys off thinking or knowing that your wife or girlfriend sleeps with other men?

You should ask your husband/boyfriend. Reasons vary. My guess is that he wants to see you as the center of attention, and it excites him to see other men attracted to you.

[slaved]

Originally Posted by angela

im curious what gets you guys off thinking or knowing that your wife or girlfriend sleeps with other men? as a woman i get it i would be having sex so i would be having fun if i was to sleep with a man besides my husband but you arent involved how does that excite you ?

Well...first off I'm bi and in my fantasies I'm very involved. I am an active participant but I am only allowed to do what I'm told, nothing more. I'm usually feminized and made to serve her and her big black lover(s) in ways only a woman could. It wouldn't turn me on if I wasn't involved. I never really "got" that about cuckolds that just want to watch...not that I'm trying to say it's wrong. (lol, yeah, after what I just wrote)

For me, it's about being dominated and degraded. The thought of my wife having such complete control over me that I would kneel by our bed, waiting to serve her in any way she desires while she's completely dominated and used by another man is electric. Her control of me is based on my unquestioning love and worship of her and my need for her sex and she revels in it and uses her total power over me to make me service her and her lovers in the most debasing ways she can think of. Nothing is quite as degrading as knowing that your wife is another man's whore. One of the biggest fantasies I have is my wife and one of her friends dominates me and friend's husband, feminizes us, and makes us serve them and their lovers together...often making us do things with each other for their amusement.

But I'll point out that this, as strong of a turn on it is, really is just a fantasy for me.

[slaved]

Originally Posted by angela

im curious what gets you guys off thinking or knowing that your wife or girlfriend sleeps with other men? as a woman i get it i would be having sex so i would be having fun if i was to sleep with a man besides my husband but you arent involved how does that excite you ?

Well...first off I'm bi and in my fantasies I'm very involved. I am an active participant but I am only allowed to do what I'm told, nothing more. I'm usually feminized and made to serve her and her big black lover(s) in ways only a woman could.

For me, it's about being dominated and degraded. The thought of my wife having such complete control over me that I would kneel by our bed, waiting to serve her in any way she desires while she's completely dominated and used by another man is electric. Her control of me is based on my unquestioning love and worship of her and my need for her sex and she revels in it and uses her total power over me to make me service her and her lovers in the most debasing ways she can think of. Nothing is quite as degrading as knowing that your wife is another man's whore.

But I'll point out that this, as strong of a turn on it is, really is just a fantasy for me.

[slaved]

Originally Posted by angela

im curious what gets you guys off thinking or knowing that your wife or girlfriend sleeps with other men? as a woman i get it i would be having sex so i would be having fun if i was to sleep with a man besides my husband but you arent involved how does that excite you ?

Well...first off I'm bi and in my fantasies I'm very involved. I am an active participant but I am only allowed to do what I'm told, nothing more. I'm usually feminized and made to serve her and her big black lover(s) in ways only a woman could.

For me, it's about being dominated and degraded. The thought of my wife having such complete control over me that I would kneel by our bed, waiting to serve her in any way she desires while she's completely dominated and used by another man is electric. Her control of me is based on my unquestioning love and worship of her and my need for her sex and she revels in it and uses her total power over me to make me service her and her lovers in the most debasing ways she can think of. Nothing is quite as degrading as knowing that your wife is another man's whore.

But I'll point out that this, as strong of a turn on it is, really is just a fantasy for me.

[Custer Laststand]

Hi Ms. Angela,

Originally Posted by angela

I like your idea custer laststand we could use it to have more playfullness.

Cool... glad to hear you like that suggestion. It seems like a way to "go" with it, thereby playing to your husbands desires, in a way that would (as you say) increase the pleasure and playfulness of your sexual relationship without actually committing you to anything you don't want to do.

If you're interested in some background on the "cuckold husband / hotwife" phenomenon, you might read:

Dr. Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
The Science of Cuckoldry Cuckold Couple

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Phenomena : Scandalouswomen

BTW, the suggestions passed along by "Slaved," I would say, are quite good and would be in the spirit of playing to your husband's fantasies.

Originally Posted by slaved

.... sometimes when you go some place without your husband (the store or a friends place, etc) tell him that you're going to meet your black lover and make him worship you in some way before you leave...make him kiss your ass for a bit before you walk out and tell him in a few minutes your [lover's] big black hands are going to be all over it. Have him kiss your feet...something degrading...maybe polish your pumps with his tongue because you want to look good for your black master. Leave him with the pair of panties you wore the day before and tell him you want him to smell your pussy while you're out having it filled with big black cock. While he's worshipping you give him a list of chores that you expect done while your out getting fucked and make sure he knows he is not to touch himself while your gone. Make sure he understands that he is to only have sexual gratification when it's supervised by you. If he's into it you can put a cockcage and those panties on him. Tell him that you'll have something else for him to clean when you get back.

Incidentally — if, like most women, you're frustrated with your husband's lack of interest in giving you more assistance with the housework — an additional way to play into his fantasies in a way that would definitely benefit you would be to proceed along these lines.

Benefits to a married woman of pantying her husband:
http://femalesupremacist.org/subject2_training_him.html

—Custer

[MacNfries]

My first experience with the effects of cuckolding occurred when I was dating a very hot bitch in college. After about 3 months of dating steadily, and me becoming overwhelmingly addicted to her, I found out she was seeing another guy. Then one night, when she gave me a BS excuse as to why she couldn't go out partying, I drove to her place in the early morning hours and found another car parked there.
I was mad, jealous, hurt, excited ... must have been a hundred different emotions, but I also found I had an awesomely hard erection, and proceeded to masturbate while envisioning her with the other guy. Then the next day I got together with her ... she acted as if nothing had happened. I fucked her, knowing she still had his cum deep inside her. We ended up having a major fight afterwards and we broke up. Weeks and months later I would start thinking of the whole event, and I would end up masturbating again to the thoughts.
A year or so later a similar situation happened with a different girl. I didn't understand it then, and quite frankly still don't understand why I get an erection when I see my wife fucking another man. But I do, and I enjoy the silky, slick feeling when I enter her and feel her loose pussy, and that hot deposit from another man. Its definitely a psychological thing ... just can't put my finger on it. Mac

[Custer Laststand]

Hi Ms. Angela,

While you're giving thought to how you definitely don't want to make your husband your cuckold, you might read this interesting and informative thread all the way through:

Seeing her filled makes me happy

in the "Cuckold Confessions" section (that is, if you haven't aready).

I hope writing to this forum is already paying dividends that are increasing the erotic appeal and, indeed, excitement of your sexual relationship with your husband.

Best wishes—

Custer

[angela]

i think for my husband he enjoys guys finding me to be sexy ,he likes me to dress slutty and have men stare at me but im 99% sure he wouldent want to take it further than that
and i know he wouldent be submissive twords another man ,now to me he does like to roleplay that im his dominatrix and hes a sub but its only in the bed room

[MacNfries]

Originally Posted by angela

i think for my husband he enjoys guys finding me to be sexy ,he likes me to dress slutty and have men stare at me but im 99% sure he wouldent want to take it further than that
and i know he wouldent be submissive twords another man ,now to me he does like to roleplay that im his dominatrix and hes a sub but its only in the bed room

Yep, I'll stick by my original comments to your thread. I imagine you could eventually arrange your relationship to involve another person in your sex life, but cuckolding isn't the ticket for you guys. If you really wish to preserve the marriage, I'd stick to fantasy and rollplaying a bit longer. I guess if you gotta be with another man to experience it, you do it and just don't say anything. Keep us posted ... its refreshing to have female input here. Mac

[angela]

Originally Posted by MacNfries

Yep, I'll stick by my original comments to your thread. I imagine you could eventually arrange your relationship to involve another person in your sex life, but cuckolding isn't the ticket for you guys. If you really wish to preserve the marriage, I'd stick to fantasy and rollplaying a bit longer. I guess if you gotta be with another man to experience it, you do it and just don't say anything. Keep us posted ... its refreshing to have female input here. Mac

i agree ,its more about playing and making things a bit kinkier for us i dont think either of us really wants a cuckold relationship, but well see how things develop for us lol